Best BDSM Punishment Ideas in 2022

Sex is already a wonderful world of pleasure on its own, but sometimes, things can go a little stale. You fall into a routine, and you end up choosing what is easy and proven during sex.

One such way that people break the monotony and add a bit of spice in bed is through BDSM.

But even BDSM plays will get stale after you've done it too often, and it takes a lot of effort to spice that one up.

But we're here to help you out, and hopefully inspire you and your partner.

BDSM Safety Tips

Before we get into the actual BDSM plays you can try out, we'll need to learn some basic safety tips to avoid hurting anybody.

Naturally, all the same rules involving safe sex is still there, like wearing protection and all that. But with BDSM, you will need consider a lot more things than usual, since there are more chances of somebody getting hurt.

Here are some of them.

Consent

The first, and most important thing in BDSM is getting your partner's consent, whether you are a dom or a sub. You cannot just do things out of nowhere without informing your partner.

One of you will be restrained or intentionally punished for a lot of these techniques, and everyone needs to be on board with this.

Make sure nothing is ambiguous, too. Talk it out, set expectations, and see where both of you can compromise and where you couldn't.

Understand the Limits

A good dom should understand their sub partner well, especially their limits, even when the sub themselves don't know.

Since the sub is placed in potentially risky situations, it's the dom's responsibility to put a stop to things if things go wrong.

Knowing your partner and establishing a good enough rapport is vital for this.

Do Research

Speaking of understanding things better, you should also plan things out in advance. That involves a lot of research on your part. Of course, if you're reading this, you're already doing a good job.

You will need to do thorough research on the toys, the procedures, and of course, your bodies.

Establish a Safe Word

Even when things are going according to plan, there are a lot of stuff that can still go wrong. That's why you'll need a safe word.

A safe word would be something you say if you want things to slow down or to stop completely. You will need to establish this word as a couple before you start. Make sure it's easy to say and not something you would use often during sex.

Of course, a simple "no" will work, too. Both people involved must be matured enough to understand the implications of this.

Decompress

BDSM can be pretty intense, even after all the work you've put into planning and executing things safely. That's why it's important to have a sort of "debrief" moment with your partner afterwards.

Share each other's thoughts about the matter, how you can both improve, and what to avoid next time. This can also be a very tender and personal moment between couples, and a nice time to bond.

If the BDSM play has the potential to be a little traumatic physically or mentally, it's also a good moment to talk about it.

You can both cuddle, or you can have a nice meal. You can even have tender sex if you two still feel a little hot. Every couple has a unique "debrief" session. Do whatever fits you and your partner best.

 

Punishment Ideas

Orgasm Control

These kinds of punishments involve the dom controlling their sub's orgasm. Some of the punishments deny it, some of them are forced upon the sub.

• Edging

Edging is a favorite type of punishment among femdom communities.

Basically, the sub will be held in place, either tied up or with handcuffs. The main goal is that they won't be able to touch themselves.

The dom will then bring the sub close to orgasm by any means. But when they are about to cum, would stop immediately. This can be done as many times as desired.

This punishment is most commonly used on men but can be an effective kind of punishment for women, too. For women, an effective way to edge is by stimulating the g-spot or the clitoris, either by hand or with a toy, then stopping when they are close to orgasm.

• Forced Orgasm

Basically, the reverse of edging, forced orgasm relies mostly on the sub's ability to have multiple orgasms. Much like edging, you will need to restrain the sub, too.

Being forced to orgasm multiple times in a row might sound like a dream for some people, but in practice, it can be over-stimulating, and very overwhelming. Being held in place unable to do anything can also be torturous, like being punished using pleasure.

You will need to you can use your hands, mouth and even your pussy to achieve this. You can even use sex toys as help.

Because women are used to multiple orgasms anyway, forced orgasms are geared more towards men, since each orgasm takes a bigger toll on them physically. Of course, when done correctly, it can still be effective on women.

• Milking

Milking is a variant of edging, with a slight twist. The sub will still be held down and be prevented from touching themselves.

The dom will still do everything needed to get the sub close to orgasm.

The only difference from edging is that the sub will be given a stipulation where they will only be allowed to cum once they've produced enough pre-cum in men or wetness in women.

The extra pressure to produce more fluid and the hope that they can be allowed to orgasm once they do is a great psychological torture many subs will enjoy.

• Chastity Belts and Cock Cages

Another great way to deny your sub the satisfaction of orgasm is by using chastity belts and cock cages.

These devices, which come straight out of a medieval torture chamber, quite literally, are designed to keep your partner's private bits locked up.

When worn, they won't be able to even touch their penis or vagina without a key, and guess who has them? You, the dom.

Torture them by getting them aroused. Force them to watch their favorite porno, touch them in their erogenous zones.

Keep them locked up and only give them the satisfaction of orgasm when they've been a good boy/girl. Maybe.

Bondage and Restraints

Probably the most well-known type of BDSM punishment, even people who aren't into BDSM would be familiar with it. In fact, a lot of people not into deep BDSM might have used bondage or restraints in bed at least a couple of times.

Restraints are a great way for a dom to do power play over their sub. Great care must be taken, though, since these types of punishments have the potential to cut off air supply or blood flow if not done correctly.

• Bondage

Your aim with bondage is to restrict your sub's movement and give them as little control of it as possible. Let them know you're the boss, and what you say goes.

You can use handcuffs, ribbons, and straps to restrict your sub's movements. You can also use blindfolds, gags, and clamps to restrict their other bodily functions and make them feel even more vulnerable.

You can even be as creative as you want. You don't need to tie your sub down just to restrict their movement.

If you’re into teacher-student roleplay, you can place a book over their head and warn them they'll be punished if it falls. There are plenty ways you can do this. Just let your imagination run wild.

• Shibari

If you're more into visually striking rope bondage, then shibari, or Japanese rope bondage, is something to experiment with.

It involves tying your sub with rope using simple, but intricate patterns. Although many consider shibari as a type of decorative bondage, it still does well for bondage play.

• Pet Play

Another way you can restrain your sub's movements is by controlling them with a collar and leash. Make them play the pet in this scenario, and you, their owner.

If you want to up the humiliation factor, you can have your sub walk on all fours like an actual dog.

Erotic Humiliation & Degradation

Humiliation punishment focuses more on making your sub feel like they're not worth anything. Even better if you can do it in public.

Of course, this is where a lot of gray areas in BDSM are. These punishments are best done under previously agreed-on boundaries. Both of you will need to be mature enough to stay within these boundaries to maintain a healthy relationship.

• What's in a Name?

The best way to dehumanize your sub is to not use their name when you address them as the dom. Even better, you can give them a naughty name. The more demeaning the better.

Here are some ideas:

1. Pet
2. Toy
3. Slave
4. Bitch (especially effective with guys)
5. Femboy
6. Slut
7. Cumrag

 

• Treat Them Like Furniture

Another way to humiliate your sub is by treating them as an object, and the most effective way to do this is by treating them like furniture.

Have them go on all-fours then sit on them or put objects on them. Does furniture talk or move? No? Then your sub doesn't either. If they do, they'll be given another, more harsh punishment later.

• Cum Play

This punishment involves playing with semen. For women, you can give them a facial and have them rub it on their face like a lotion. As a kind dom, make sure to compliment how beautiful they look.

For guys, you can force them to cum on themselves and you can rub the semen the same way. You can even force him to swallow it. Make sure he knows how disgusting he looks doing it.

• Cross Dressing

For a guy sub, nothing can be as humiliating as being forced to wear women's clothing. Even better if they're forced to wear women's underwear.

You can tell him to wear it all day long, or even better, force him to wear your underwear in public under his normal clothes. The chances of him being caught crossdressing in public would be delicious.

• Cuckoldry

This type of punishment is a more advanced one and should only be tried if you're more experienced or if you trust each other completely.

This is because you will be introducing another person in bed, which can ruin a relationship if not handled correctly. Always set clear boundaries and be sure to follow them 100%.

That said, if you and your partner can pull it off, it is the best humiliation punishment you can do for your sub.

Basically, this punishment involves the dom having sex with a different partner, all with the sub knowing about it, or even watching it happen as it happens.

Of course, if bringing another person into bed with you is out of the question, there are tamer options out there that you can do. You can force your sub to watch you masturbate with a toy, and they aren't allowed to touch you or themselves. Absolute torture!

 

Painful Punishments

Aside from mental punishments, you can always try out physical ones as well. Painful punishments are just that. They cause pain.

Like we've mentioned before, make sure you and your partner have done your research, and learn to hold back when needed. If done correctly, your sub will feel a lot of pain, but would be far from getting physically harmed.

• Whipping/Spanking

This punishment involves using a whip or the flat side of an object, like a ruler, to spank your sub. The pain will mostly be skin-deep so there shouldn't be any risk of injury involved.

There will be a lot of red, angry welts on the sub's skin once the dom is done, which the sub will likely thank you for.

• Wax Play

Another painful punishment that can produce a sharp, but short bout of pain involves dipping wax on your sub. This usually involves a candle with specialized wax.

Just make sure you keep any open flames away from your sub. Also, if the sub has an open wound, avoid dipping wax into it.

• Temperature Play

This punishment involves using temperature to punish your sub. Usually this involves cold temperatures.

You can do this by putting a dildo or butt plug into the freezer and forcing your sub to wear and use them.

• Clamps/Clothespins

One painful punishment that's easy to do with your sub is by using clamps or even simple clothespins. Pinch your sub in very sensitive areas of skin, particularly on erogenous zones, like the nipples, the inner thighs, the neck, arms, and others.

 

Kinky Punishments

Kinky punishments tend to be milder in nature, and are a great place to start with BDSM, if you've only done vanilla things up until now.

They are highly erotic, and very naughty in nature. These punishments tend to give sexual satisfaction to the sub despite being actual punishments.

• Body Worship

A type of punishment where you force the sub to worship different parts of your body. This can be the feet, butt, the penis, and many more.

Worship isn't that hard, either. It simply involves paying attention more than usual, like kissing, licking, or simply whispering compliments to it. It's also a great chance to boost the dom's confidence.

• Rimjob

Rimjobs, also called eating ass or rimming, basically involves having oral sex with a partner's anus. Have your sub lick or kiss your anus. Just make sure it's clean.

It does feel weird receiving it at first, but very pleasurable.

• Panty Gags

Panty gags are a great punishment for men. Take your panties out seductively, scrunch it up into a ball and stuff it into your sub's mouth.

Even better, have your partner cum into them, then have the sub gagged. They'd love it. Just make sure the panties don't obstruct their breathing.

 

 

- by ZW Yan