How to Masturbate the Clitoris?

76% of people with vulvas need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm

The clitoris is the only organ in the body mainly dedicated to providing pleasure. It is estimated that there are more than 8,000 nerve endings throughout the clitoris, nearly double the amount found in the penis. With such an organ designed for pleasure, one might wonder how the so-called "orgasm gap" between different genders can still exist.

The orgasmic gap is a concept that puts a reality on the table: that, in heterosexual sexual relations, people with a penis tend to experience a higher frequency of orgasms compared to people with a vulva.

To complicate matters, Sigmund Freud added to the challenge in 1905 by promoting the concept of two types of orgasms: vaginal and clitoral. Unfortunately, he pathologized clitoral orgasms, considering them as signs of mental instability. He also propagated the belief that "proper" sexual satisfaction could only be attained through penetration, and solely within the context of marriage. Freud's research not only reinforced the existing stigma around the sexual pleasure of individuals with vulvas but also had a long-lasting impact that still echoes today.

Anatomy of the Clitoris

But... Where is the clitoris? It can be found at the meeting point of the inner lips of the vulva, towards the top. After the clitoris, the most sensitive areas of the vulva are these:

Clitoral Stimulation Techniques  

It's important to keep in mind that there isn't a one-size-fits-all technique for clitoral stimulation. Each clitoris has its own unique sensitivity, and sexual arousal progresses through different stages. With that in mind, we've put together some ideas that you can customize to suit your preferences and needs. Remember, self-awareness and open communication are vital for understanding your own desires and putting them into practice.

For an enhanced experience, it's recommended to combine various stimulation techniques and vary the speed to maximize pleasure. Additionally, it's always advisable to use a water-based lubricant before engaging in masturbation. This helps prevent discomfort and ensures a more pleasurable experience.

4 Techniques for Manual and Oral Stimulation  

Let's begin by directing our attention to the inner and outer lips of the vulva, exploring their sensitivity. From there, we can progress to gentle caresses on the clitoris, the U point, and the entrance to the vagina. Now, let's delve into some clitoral masturbation techniques that you can try out.

1. Circles

One technique involves creating circular motions around the clitoris, using gentle movements with your fingers or tongue. Start by making larger circles that barely brush against the clitoris, and gradually decrease the size of the circles, moving closer to the glans. 

 2. Zig-zag

This technique involves using a zig-zag motion, moving from side to side diagonally, as if drawing a "Z" on the clitoris. This technique allows for stimulation of the entire area, without necessarily applying direct pressure on the clitoris itself.

3. From up to down

Try moving your fingers or tongue in a top-to-bottom motion. This movement allows you to glide over the U point and the entrance to the vagina, which are two highly sensitive and pleasurable areas following the clitoris.

4. The sandwich

This one involves creating a "sandwich" with your middle and ring fingers, placing them on either side of the clitoris. With this position, you can move your fingers up and down, applying gentle pressure towards the clitoris. This technique can provide pleasurable sensations and stimulation.

Creative stimulation

Repetitive and predictable movements can sometimes lead to a sense of routine and automatic stimulation. To keep things exciting, creativity becomes your best ally in any sexual practice.

Here are a few alternatives to help you explore new horizons in clitoral stimulation:

• Shower head: Take the shower head and point it towards your vulva. Play around with the water's pressure, angle, and temperature to discover the perfect level of stimulation that suits you best. 
• Pillow: Put a pillow on the bed and position yourself on your knees, allowing it to be positioned between your legs for your clitoris to rub against. You have full control over the movements and rhythm, tailoring the experience to your liking. Additionally, you can combine this technique with one of the previous manual stimulation techniques for added pleasure and variety.
• Rolled Towel: Take a towel and roll it up tightly, resembling a sushi roll. Place it wherever you desire and use it to rub against your clitoris, indulging in a delightful petting session. This technique allows for pleasurable sensations and can add a unique touch to your intimate experiences.

Sucker

One of the remarkable breakthroughs in the world of erotic toys has been the clitoral clitoral sucker. This innovative tool has opened doors for numerous individuals with vulvas, allowing them to explore squirting or experience multiple orgasms for the first time. To enhance your pleasure, consider alternating between manual or oral stimulation and the gentle suction waves of one of the top contenders in the market, such as the Soko. Embracing such devices can add a new dimension to your intimate experiences and elevate your sensations to new heights.

Biting stimulation

Fellare, a versatile clitoral vibrator, offers a unique form of stimulation by gently biting the clitoris. This allows you to explore new sensations beyond traditional vibration methods. With its discreet design, compact size, and user-friendly interface, Fellare serves as the perfect introductory toy for those beginning their journey with pleasure-enhancing devices.

However, it's important to note that addressing the orgasm gap goes beyond merely memorizing stimulation techniques or acquiring a specific toy like Fellare. Effective communication with your partner during sexual encounters is crucial. Understanding your partner's desires and turn-ons plays a significant role in narrowing the orgasm gap and fostering a more fulfilling experience for both individuals involved. 

The G-spot vs. the clitoris: Are they the same?  

The G-spot is often described as a highly sensitive erogenous zone located about 2 to 3 inches inside the vaginal canal, along the front wall.

Interestingly, some research suggests that the G-spot is not a separate entity from the clitoris but rather a specific area where the bulbs of the clitoris form a heart shape that surrounds the canal. In other words, the G-spot is a distinct part of the clitoris that can be stimulated internally.

Vaginal penetration can be pleasurable not only because of the sensations it provides within the vaginal walls but also due to the pressure it applies to the internal parts of the clitoris. Some individuals find that a combination of penetration and external clitoral stimulation can lead to intense orgasms.