How to get started in pegging

Embracing the opportunity to explore sex from a new perspective

Pegging, originally associated with heterosexual dynamics, has evolved to encompass individuals of any gender who engage in anal penetration. It refers to the act of one person, regardless of their gender, anally penetrating another person (who has a penis) using a dildo secured to a harness. While pegging can offer immense pleasure and introduce a whole new realm of sensations, it's important to note that it can also be uncomfortable if not approached correctly... With that in mind, let's explore the steps to follow when starting pegging with your sexual partner!

Pegging, a term coined by columnist Dan Savage in 2001, emerged from a collaborative effort with his readers to give a name to a specific sexual practice. It refers to the act of a person with a vulva anally penetrating another person using a sex toy that is securely fastened with a harness.

Benefits of pegging

• Breaking Sexual Routine: Engaging in pegging can help break free from sexual routines and explore new experiences with your partner. It adds variety and excitement to your intimate life.

• Enhanced Connection: Pegging fosters a deeper connection with your partner as it requires trust, communication, vulnerability, and intimacy. Exploring new sexual frontiers together can strengthen your bond.

• Prostate Stimulation: Pegging offers the opportunity to stimulate the prostate, also known as the P-spot. The prostate is an erogenous zone for individuals with penises, and with proper stimulation, it can lead to intense and pleasurable orgasms.

• Role Reversal: Pegging often involves a role reversal, where the person who typically performs penetration (often with a penis) is now the one being penetrated by a person with a vulva. This exchange of roles can be exciting and empowering for both partners.

Engaging in role reversal during sex, such as in the case of pegging, offers a unique opportunity to experience intimacy from a different perspective. For the individual who is typically the receiver of penetration, taking on the role of the penetrator can be an empowering exercise that brings about both physical and psychological stimulation.

Key steps for a pleasant experience

Talk openly with your partner

Getting started in the practice of pegging with your sexual partner involves having a long conversation. What is necessary so that you both share the consent that you want to try this, without inhibitions involved. Some questions you can ask yourself are: Why are you interested in trying pegging? What do you expect from that experience?

Buy the necessary material and familiarize yourself with it

Once both partners have enthusiastically consented to trying pegging, it is beneficial to educate yourselves about this practice. (make sure the information comes from an expert page or opinion on sexology). The next thing is to get the necessary material to carry it out. 

• Dildo: Choose a dildo or vibrator that suits your preferences and comfort level. For beginners, it's advisable to start with a smaller size. Opt for a silicone material, as it is easy to clean and provides flexibility during use.

• Harness: The person who will be doing the penetration should get familiar with the harness and dildo by trying them on beforehand. This helps ensure a better understanding of how they fit and function, making the experience smoother when the time comes.

• Lubricant: Select a water-based lubricant, as it is compatible with silicone dildos and condoms (which should be used when exchanging the dildo between partners). Using plenty of lubricant is crucial to enhance comfort and pleasure. Consider using a specialized anal lubricant for massage or prior anal stimulation.

Using an anesthetic product is not advisable as it can numb the sensation, making it difficult to notice if any harm is being done. It is crucial to be aware of any pain or discomfort during the process, as it serves as a signal to stop to prevent potential damage.

Calmly

Prior to beginning, it is important to establish a safe word that can be used if the person being penetrated wishes to stop. Taking things slowly is the next step. The individual being penetrated sets the pace and maintains control throughout. There is no need to rush; it is an opportune moment to savor and appreciate the sensations.

Start with easy postures

Like many other sexual practices, there are not inherently superior or inferior positions for pegging. The best position will be the one that you and your partner enjoy the most or find most comfortable. However, if it's your first-time exploring pegging, some recommended positions to start with are the elevated missionary (using a pillow for a better angle) or the doggy style, as they can facilitate easier penetration and provide more control. Remember that communication, experimentation, and finding what works best for both partners are key in discovering enjoyable experiences.

It is important to be prepared

If there is a need for any form of cleanup or preparation, it is advisable to be prepared in advance. There is no need to feel ashamed, as it is a natural aspect of the experience. It can be helpful to have a towel or wet wipes readily available. Additionally, engaging in the activity in the shower or considering an anal enema beforehand may also be options worth exploring.

Remember that with patience and open communication, a wide range of possibilities can be explored. Embrace your pleasure and keep an open mindset, allowing yourself to fully enjoy your sexuality.