Autofellatio: The Pleasures of Self-Sucking and How to Do It

If you’re a sexually active guy, then you’ll probably agree that nothing beats a blow job. Regular sex is great and all, but there are just some things a tongue and mouth could do that you could only ever wish vaginas could.

Great as blow jobs might feel, however, they share the same limitations as sex, that is, you’ll need a partner. Or do you? 

Well, if you’re familiar with autofellatio, then you’ll know that oral sex doesn’t have to be a two-person affair. But how do you autofellatio? Actually, what even is autofellatio?

Let’s look into it.

What is Autofellatio?

Autofellatio, also known as a self-blowjob or self-sucking, is a way to orally stimulate your penis using your own mouth.

Because it takes a lot of flexibility to do, among other reasons, which we’ll get into later, not many men can suck their own dick. In fact, it is said that only 2 or 3 out of a thousand men can do it naturally.

But, with the right training, and maybe some help from proper positioning and gravity, it is something many people can learn to do consistently.

The female version or an autofellatio is called autocunnilingus. 

Why Bother Trying Autofellatio?

For a lot of people, the thought of giving yourself oral sex might be a weird thing to do, but there are a lot of reasons why it’s something you should try experiencing, if you can do it.

Here are a few of those reasons. 

It’s Convenient

Let’s face it, to get proper sex, let alone oral sex, you’ll need a willing partner, with an emphasis on “willing”. Not everyone is as eager to give a blowjob as you might be at receiving it. 

But if you can perform a blowjob on yourself, at any time and any place, then who needs to get a partner, right? 

No need for dates, flowers, or even getting your partner into the mood. You’ll probably still need to warm up before you do it, at least, but it’s definitely more convenient, and much cheaper. 

You essentially get the physical pleasures of a blowjob, but with the convenience of basic masturbation. 

It’s Hot

Being able to suck yourself can be a great turn-on. It is a level of eroticism that is very hard to explain without experiencing it yourself. 

It’s not something everyone can do, but if you’re able to do it, that exclusivity brings a lot of hotness into the picture. Plus, imagine doing it in front your partner. 

You Learn a Lot About Yourself and Your Partner

If you’re talking about sex in general, there tends to be a lot of uncertainty involved. A lot of what you do involves trial and error. 

Great if you get it right the first time, but if not, you’ll just have to learn and do better next time. Unfortunately, there might not always be a next time, and failing so catastrophically in bed is a huge blow to anybody’s ego. 

This is made even worse if your partner or you don’t know your own preferences. 

Autofellatio is a great way to learn about your own preferences in oral sex without bothering any of your sexual partners. On top of that, you’ll also discover a few things that might not be possible in oral sex, essentially lowering any unrealistic expectations out of your partner. 

Overall? A healthier relationship in bed, at least when it comes to oral sex. 

And, since you can practice on your own, you can train yourself to last longer. 

Just Because You Can

The best reason why you should try autofellatio? Well, just because you can. 

Let’s face it, not everyone will be lucky enough to do an autofellatio. But those that can, probably had to work hard for it. Being able to do autofellatio is an achievement on its own and can be a huge boost to your confidence. 

Is Self-Sucking Gay?

One of the most important aspects of self-sucking is putting a penis inside your own mouth. Now, without context, that does sound like something a gay man would do. Or is it? 

Touching a penis would certainly be considered gay, but would it be the same if the penis in question is your own? That is just considered masturbation, isn’t it? 

Then, one could argue that autofellatio is just masturbation using a different part of your body. 

Being homosexual is more of a mindset anyway. That is, being attracted to another man. Sucking your own penis doesn’t require you to be in love with another man. 

There might be an argument that performing auto-erotica is considered narcissistic instead, but it is far from being homosexual. Not that there is anything wrong about being gay, of course. 

But if it matters to you, then you can be rest assured. If you started out straight as an arrow when you self-sucked, then you will end the same way after you’re done. 

What You Need to Successfully Self-Suck

Now, as we’ve mentioned before, self-fellating is not something everyone can do. And even if you have the potential to do it, it may not always be easy. 

If you don’t have what it takes, don’t worry about it. There are still plenty of stuff you can try out. The world of sexual pleasures is wide, and seemingly infinite. 

That said, here are a few things you’ll need to have to be able to self-suck, or at least make it easy to do autofellatio. 


It probably wouldn’t surprise you, but in order to suck your own dick, you’ll definitely need to be flexible enough. Specifically, you’ll need a flexible neck as well as a flexible spine, especially around the hips. 

If you’re not naturally flexible, you can always train to be flexible by attending yoga classes, doing Pilates, or simply doing back-specific stretching exercises daily. 

There are also a lot of workouts that improve your flexibility, most of which you can do at home. You can find videos of those online easily enough. 

Of course, if that just sounds like too much work for you, you can always undergo surgery to remove one or more of your ribs. That takes a lot of money, however, and will require a long time to recover. Not to mention that it might not always give you the intended boost in flexibility anyway. 

You Need to be Packing

Another hurdle you’ll need to overcome in order to do self-sucking, or at least make it easier, is to have an above average penis length. You probably wouldn’t need a monster cock, or anything, but every inch will definitely make your job a whole lot easier. 

To make autofellatio to be even worth considering, you’ll need a penis size of at least 6 inches. The longer your penis is, the less flexible you’ll need to be, too. 

Of course, if you normally are not gifted in that area, you can always make it up for with a stronger erection. Using penis pumps alongside cock rings can give you a better, and more importantly, bigger erection than usual, making it perfect for autofellatio. 

Smaller Gut

On top of being flexible, you’ll also need to have a flat, or at least a small gut for self-sucking to work. A large stomach can block you from bending forward and reaching your penis. 

This means you’ll need to already be, or at least planning on living a healthy lifestyle to even consider autofellatio. 

Of course, you also need to strike a good balance, because working out regularly would mean building muscle, and if you do it incorrectly, then this could severely affect your flexibility overall. 

A Little Help

If you have plenty of the above traits and you’re still having trouble reaching those few inches to your own cock, then it’s probably time to call it quits. Or is it? 

Well, if you have a partner, then it might benefit you to ask them for help. Maybe all you need is a small push on your back to finally do it. 

Sure, it might end in an awkward situation, where you’re trying to explain the whole thing to them, but if you’re earnest enough, they might just agree to do it. 

Communicating with your partner honestly is the point here. You will be placed in awkward positions, which can lead to you being hurt if either of you push beyond your physical limits. 

Best Positions to Try

If you managed to meet any of the basic requirements for autofellatio, then congratulations! 

Unfortunately, that’s just half the battle for you. You still need to find the optimal position in order to self-suck. Lucky for you, you don’t have to guess or do trial and error. We’ve already compiled a list. 


The seated position, also called the “C” position, is usually recommended for beginners, since it’s one of the most straightforward. 

However, this position will require a lot of flexibility to do properly. You will also need to have a lot of the basic requirements for autofellatio, like a small gut, or a bigger dick. 

That said, if you can do self-sucking in this position, then you have a pretty good chance of doing it in other positions as well. 

To do this, you’ll need to be seating down, preferably on the edge of your bed, against a wall, or on a chair. You can also do it on the floor, but you will need something to prop up your back in case you fall backwards. 

Once you’re seated, put your arms around your legs, just behind the knees for support and hug them close to your chest. You can now start bending your back and neck slowly forward, towards your dick. 

Use your hands to tighten your legs and pull yourself closer to your cock. If it’s your first time doing this, don’t exert yourself for more than 5 seconds at a time. Try to keep your stomach relaxed as well. 

On Your Back

Another beginner-friendly position you can try is by lying on your back. It will work and look similarly to the plow position in yoga. 

First thing you’ll need to do is lay down on the bed, or on the floor, on top of a mat. We recommend putting a pillow or at least a towel under your head and neck to lower discomfort. 

You will also need to position your head at least a foot away from the wall or the headboard of your bed. If you’re flexible enough, you wouldn’t need them, but they are pretty much essential if it’s your first time trying this position out. 

Next, raise your pelvis and bend them towards your face. Once your pelvis is high enough, make sure you support your lower back with your hands to avoid injury. 

You will then need to press your feet against that wall or headboard we talked about earlier. Once your legs and feet are in position, you can “walk” against that wall to push your crotch closer to your face. 

Relaxing at this point will make things much easier. Try not to fight gravity, since it’s a great tool to make your job a little easier. 

Standing Position

A more advanced option you can try is the standing, or the “P” position. This one pretty much works like the seated position, but, as you may have guessed already, you’ll be on your feet. 

Whilst standing, simply bend your back and neck forwards towards your dick. Once you’ve bent far enough, you can clasp your hands around your legs to pull yourself closer. 

One advantage the standing position have over the seated position is the added help from gravity. Still, you will need to be flexible, and you’ll have minimal support for your back and buttocks. 

Yogi’s Sleep

The yogi’s sleep position, also known as the X-position, or the cross-legged position, is one of the most advanced positions you can try for autofellatio. 

It offers the best access to your crotch, and also frees up your hands for further stimulation. 

However, it does require you to rest your feet against the back of your head, which means you have to be very flexible, especially in the lower back and your hips. 

First, lay on your back, preferably on the bed for extra support, but using a yoga mat on the floor works, too. 

You will then need to roll your legs behind your shoulders, with the back of your knees resting against your shoulders. Next, you need to lock your feet together behind your head. 

This should give you free access to your dick for easier self-sucking. With your hands free, you can play with your balls, or even do a reach-around to play with your asshole. 

We cannot stress this enough, however, that this position is for advanced self-suckers only. Don’t force yourself into it, or you will hurt yourself. 

Other Tips

Autofellatio is certainly an advanced sexual experience, and very difficult to achieve if you’re not naturally inclined to it. 

However, there are a few things you can do to make the experience more pleasant. 

  • Relax yourself. It’s already hard to do self-sucking on its own. Don’t make it harder by fighting against it.
  • Think about your cum. In the heat of the moment, you probably don’t care where your semen lands once you’re done. But bear in mind, they do come out strongly, and if you get caught by surprise, you can choke, which is something you’d want to avoid while locked in a weird position. Also, drinking cum isn’t for everybody. So, think about where you shoot it before you even start.
  • Have an exit plan. Even with the right circumstances, things do tend to go wrong when you try to give yourself a blowjob. Plan things out beforehand. You would also want your phone just within reach in case of an emergency.
  • Keep healthy. This is more of a general tip but living a healthier lifestyle can make things easier. Plus, exercising regularly can help limit any injury you might get, or at least help with recovery.

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