The 10 most common female fantasies
We have put together the most common female erotic fantasies, but I'm sure you can think of many more!
Imagining it is the first step to living it, if you want!
1. Make a threesome
Threesomes are a well-known male fantasy, but here's the truth—both men and women sometimes dream of experiencing one. However, there are subtle differences in their desires regarding the "how" and "with whom."
In their fantasies, they envision themselves as the dominant figure amidst two others, who often engage with each other. Typically, they imagine being accompanied by two individuals with penises, and their partner may not always be part of the equation.
This ultimate fantasy is incredibly stimulating because it combines various elements that amplify pleasure. It offers the thrill of swapping partners, the exciting unknown of being with someone new, and the special attention received from two people simultaneously.
2. Partner exchange
The practice of real couple exchange is increasingly common nowadays. However, before taking that step, many people find it exciting to imagine and fantasize about it. Like threesomes, these fantasies provide an opportunity to engage in playful experiences with unfamiliar individuals or multiple partners at once.
If you're considering putting this fantasy into practice, it's crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner. Clearly express your boundaries and establish rules beforehand. It's essential to prioritize emotional well-being and ensure that everyone involved is consenting and comfortable. Remember, if everyone agrees, exploring different possibilities can be a valid and enjoyable experience.
3. Sex in a public place
One of the recurring fantasies in the female erotic imagination involves engaging in sexual activities in public places, adding an element of extra danger. Whether it's the hood of a car, a beach, an elevator, or a fitting room, these settings hold a certain allure.
Why is this fantasy so common? There are several factors at play. Firstly, the forbidden nature of such acts adds a sense of excitement and taboo. It's important to note that engaging in public sex is illegal. Secondly, the possibility of being seen by someone heightens the thrill. Lastly, the immediacy of the action, a "catch me if you can" scenario, can satisfy desires in the moment.
For men, the "where" element often serves as a passive element of the fantasy. The location becomes a protagonist within the mind's narrative.
A variation of this fantasy involves using erotic toys, such as a remote-controlled Hale or a vibrating egg, in public places. This can be done discreetly and adds an extra layer of excitement to the experience.
4. Sex with an acquainant
Let's face it, almost everyone has someone in their social circle whom they find attractive and would be willing to do a favor for. It could be a lifelong friend, a teacher, a psychologist, a Pilates instructor, or even your boss. As your circle of acquaintances expands, so do the possibilities for fantasizing.
It's perfectly normal to have fantasies about someone close to us whom we consider attractive. In fact, the allure may be even greater if one of the parties involved is already in a committed relationship, as the forbidden aspect adds an extra level of excitement to the equation.
5. Be observed or observe
We've already touched on our penchant for fantasizing about sex in public places, and it's no wonder this fantasy is so common. The thrill of possibly being caught fuels our excitement. The idea that someone could discover us and watch while we indulge in pleasure puts us in a position of dominance over the observer. In that moment, we hold the power and control, revealing only what we desire. It's a chance to explore exhibitionism and relish in being watched.
Now, let's flip the scenario. It's equally thrilling to imagine we as the voyeur, peeking into forbidden scenes from the other side of the door. After all, human beings are naturally curious. Do you have someone specific in mind whom you'd like to observe?
Engaging in voyeuristic fantasies can be a steppingstone to exploring your own desires and experiences. It may be a way to satisfy your curiosity before fully diving into such activities. So, while you may not feel ready to act on your fantasies just yet, the curiosity is there.
6. Group sex
Group sex fantasies encompass a wide range of desires, including engaging with strangers, acquaintances, and exploring different roles. However, the fantasy of participating in a group sex session often remains tucked away in the realm of the unattainable. This may stem from a lack of information about where and how such encounters take place or concerns that the reality may not live up to the idealized version in one's mind.
It's important to recognize that engaging in group sex requires a certain level of physical preparedness to maintain the pace and meet the demands of multiple partners. Additionally, there may be emotional considerations to navigate. Despite these factors, simply thinking about and acknowledging the desire for group sex is the first step towards potentially realizing it, should it be something you genuinely want to explore.
7. Be dominated or dominate
In fantasies where an individual with a vulva takes on a submissive role, they often imagine receiving orders from a dominant partner or "master" and eagerly carrying them out to provide pleasure. Depending on the intensity of the fantasy, some may even incorporate elements of physical pain as a source of pleasure. It's worth noting that people who have submissive fantasies may often be in positions of control in their everyday lives, finding excitement in relinquishing control in these specific scenarios.
Conversely, in dominant role fantasies, individuals fantasize about exerting their desires and power over a submissive partner, deriving pleasure from having the other person at their mercy within the established boundaries of safety and consent.
In recent years, there has been a proliferation of books and films that explore themes of domination, bringing this topic into the mainstream and making it more accessible to a wider audience. For those interested in exploring this fantasy, one way to start is by delving into the world of bondage and immobilization, learning beginner-level bondage knots and techniques. However, it's crucial to approach any BDSM activities with proper education, communication, and consent to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience.
8. Sex with another person with an age difference
Fantasizing about someone with a significant age difference is indeed a common occurrence, whether it involves someone much older or younger than oneself. When fantasizing about an older person, there is often an attraction to their perceived wisdom, knowledge, and potentially their ability to offer new and improved ways of doing things based on their life experiences.
On the other hand, when fantasizing about a younger person, there is a desire to impart one's own sexual expertise and know-how to someone who may be less experienced. This fantasy can stem from a sense of power and control, as the fantasizer takes on the role of a teacher or mentor, guiding the younger person and showcasing their own capabilities.
It's important to note that age-difference fantasies are a product of individual preferences and desires. They can serve to explore power dynamics and the exchange of knowledge and experience. However, it's crucial to approach any real-life relationships or interactions with awareness, respecting boundaries, and ensuring that all parties involved are consenting adults.
9. Sex with another person with a vulva when heterosexual
It's quite common for women to fantasize about having sex with another person who also has a vulva. Some theories suggest that we're all born with a natural inclination towards bisexuality, but societal and cultural influences can suppress these feelings. However, it's important to note that fantasizing about someone with a vulva doesn't automatically mean you're bisexual. It could simply indicate a curiosity about the experience with another person who shares that aspect of anatomy. Remember, in your own mind, you have the freedom to explore any desires or fantasies you want. It's a space where you can give yourself permission to imagine and indulge in whatever arouses your curiosity or interest.
10. Sex with a stranger or famous
Many folks with vulvas find it thrilling to imagine themselves with someone they have no personal connection to. It could be someone they encounter in their everyday lives, like the pizza delivery guy from last night, the traffic cop they see in the morning, or a fellow train passenger they share a car with. The appeal lies in the fantasy of engaging with someone they barely know, where the mystery and excitement of the encounter add to the allure.
Additionally, it's common to have fantasies about famous people we admire. We all have our secret platonic loves, whether it's a favorite singer, a beloved television presenter, or the star of a popular series. The combination of admiration and the pleasure derived from imagining a sexual encounter with our idol can create an explosive mix of emotions and desires.
Engaging in sexual fantasies is a source of pleasure for many of us, particularly within the realm of eroticism. Fantasies serve as an erotic resource, just like a movie, a book, or a toy. They allow us to explore our desires, stimulate our imagination, and enhance our sexual experiences...
Fantasies are not good or bad, they are simply whatever you want! Take advantage and use its full potential.
Indulging in a fantasy does not necessarily mean that you want to carry it out. You can create your own stories in your mind with all kinds of detail and it will help enrich your sex life and improve your libido. Fantasizing we feel safe, because there are no consequences that this action can have.
If you have a partner, it can be beneficial to share your desires and fantasies with them. Open and honest sexual communication forms the foundation of a healthy relationship and can lead to new and exciting experiences. Discussing your fantasies helps foster understanding and can contribute to mutual growth. It's important not to judge each other and remember that not all fantasies have to be fulfilled by both partners.
The meaning behind our fantasies is subjective and not of utmost importance. There are not inherently "bad" sexual fantasies as long as they work for you personally. If a fantasy arouses you and brings you pleasure, don't hesitate to embrace it. Fantasies can be a powerful tool for pleasure within a safe and controlled environment.
By acknowledging that the brain is the most powerful sexual organ, you can fully embrace the role of fantasy in your sexual experiences. Don't be afraid to use your imagination for pleasure. Allowing yourself to engage in fantasies is the first step towards enjoying them, and ultimately, you have the autonomy to decide whether to bring them into reality or keep them within the realm of your imagination. So, shall we delve into the realm of fantasies and explore the possibilities together?
